Author: Dwayne Melancon -- Email me

About this site

Hello, I'm Dwayne Melancon and I write here on a wide variety of topics that only have one thing in common:  They appeal to my sense of genuine curiosity, and my love of learning about new things.

The content here tends to have a high bias towards gadgets, books (mostly business & personal development kinds of titles), travel, management, leadership, communication, and topics related to learning.  But sometimes other things will show up here, as well.

This site is a personal outlet for my thoughts and, as such, my posts might be a bit farther apart when work is busy, but I generally update at least 2 or 3 times per week.

Thank you for stopping by - I hope to see you often.

Why "Genuine Curiosity"?

The concept is this: when you're talking to people about stuff, rather than trying to connect the dots in your own mind (i.e. jump to conclusions or make assumptions), hold back a bit on that tendency and ask another open ended question. Simple, but it'll make a difference in what you learn, how open people are to you, and how much you connect with them.

For example, one of the things I practice is seeing how long I can talk with someone while only asking open-ended questions. Not in a juvenile "made you look" kind of way - just to see how much I can find out.

Some of the most useful questions I've learned for this are things like:

"Really?"

"Why'd you do that?"

"What was that like?"

"Why do you think they did that?"

"What's up with that?"

"So, what are you going to do?"

Give it a try. Ask them in an "I really want to know more" kind of way. If it feels awkward, keep trying. Personally, I find it easier in a work context, but I think it's more valuable in a personal context.

What I've found is that it starts as a novelty, but you'll end up actually becoming more curious and more interested in what people are all about. And that's not a bad thing.